I have a nine-week old nephew who is teaching me every day about life and about being remarkable.
1. He always says what he wants, when he wants it, how he wants it and who he wants around. It’s true, he does it by crying or smiling as his verbal communication is still limited to sounds and giggling, but the important thing is that he makes himself understood whereas, us adults have a whole variety of ways to communicate, yet we sometimes barely understand each other and most of the times don’t even say honestly what we want, when we want and how we want it.
2. It only takes a minute to let go of the anxiety and the negative feelings about his food, diaper, who’s holding him or playing with him and who’s not. He doesn’t hold grudges, he doesn’t bring up that time when you didn’t play with him in the two-hour span when he felt like playing, he just lives in every single moment, not in the one before or in the one coming, but right now.
3. He tries and tries until he gets/does it and then he tries again. There’s no giving up, there’s no trying once and saying it doesn’t work. I’m just guessing here, but trying to hold your own head or sitting up can’t be that easy, but he’s trying it every time he gets and chance and then once he got it, he continues to do it over and over again. He didn’t just try to do it once and after it didn’t work or maybe it was too hard, he decided that it’s impossible, therefore he can’t do it.
4. He finds joy in all the cute little pleasures of life like smelling the fully blossomed cherry trees, kicking my hands with his legs as if we’re in a kickboxing ring and I’m his trainer, getting distracted by a colored napkin, sticking his tongue out and smiling with his cute toothless mouth even when he’s eating so that the formula drips all the way to his neck, grabbing my hair really really tight and anchoring himself in order to have enough strength to pull himself up (ok, maybe that one is not really fun for me, but we’re working on it).
5. Time is what he chooses it to be. He does have a feeding schedule, a sleeping schedule and all that stuff, but at the same time if he feels like sleeping when it’s time for the bath or if he wants to eat a second bottle when it’s time to sleep then that’s what he will do…he doesn’t wear a watch and he doesn’t need one, because time is indeed what he makes of it.
One of the things I love doing is watching kids before they get spoiled and conditioned by parents, teachers and society and the beautiful thing about it is that the vision of a better world that a lot of us have is based on remembering how to act as children, to allow the joy, the peace and the beauty that is innate in us to flow in the Universe, so next time you get a chance watch a child and get inspired.