This has happened to me a few times in the past month so I decided it’s worth a post. People telling me they’re not feeling well or they’re working therefore they can’t meet up and later in the day checking in on Facebook or posting photos with geolocation from some bar, the beach, some party. Now I’m sure this is nothing new, I’ve come up with excuses in the past because I didn’t want to do something or I didn’t feel like talking/meeting up with someone, but I guess I was just smarter about it and didn’t broadcast my location to the world and killed my excuse within minutes of making it.
Two questions come to mind:
- Why do we need to lie? Can’t we just say: I’m doing something else, meeting with someone else, but how about we meet tomorrow or another day? I admit at times, I’m struggling with this one too because I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, but at the same time I’ve come to realize that lying because I don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings is not a solution. The solution is to be mature and responsible, to tell the truth, be gentle about it, and offer alternatives so I make sure that particular friend knows I’m not ignoring them, but I’m making room in my life for them.
- If we’re still at that infantile level where we feel we need to lie, how come we can’t be better about it? I mean, really, if we’re friends on Facebook or some other social media platform, chances are I’m going to see your post about hanging our at the beach 20 minutes after you told me how busy you are and complained that you have to work on a weekend.
In a world where we value privacy more than anything, yet we have less privacy than ever before, I’ve learned that the truly amazing people are the ones who will choose to tell the truth whether the other person is likely to find it out from other sources or not. Social media, as many other advancements in technology, has not changed who we really are. It has merely enhanced it and made it public. So in a world where without even trying to hard, I can find out more information in 5 minutes, than a detective would find out in a week a century ago, I choose the people who tell the truth even when they think no one will find out they lied.