“My failures have been errors in judgment, not of intent.” – Ulysses S. Grant
Have you ever looked at someone and said: “I can’t believe they did that!” I think we’ve all done it at one point or another in our lives and have held that judgment about them as if it was the truth, the essence of who they are. Let’s take a step back. Does every little thing you’ve done in your life say good things about you, does it represent who you are now or who you’d like to become? We all have those chapters in our lives that we’d rather leave hidden, we’d rather forget about them and never return to the person we were in that moment.
Some of us are not proud of how we reacted in a certain moment, our actions, our words, our thoughts. Some of us have a whole section of our lives that we’d rather keep away from our current life. It’s not about hiding things or about being untruthful, it’s about the fact that we are no longer the person we used to be or the person we were for one split second when we made that decision.
Looking back at my life there are so many moments that I don’t want to be defined by, moments where the “halo” of who I am and who I strive to be not only slipped, but fell all the way to the ground, moments of which I’m honestly and truly embarrassed, ashamed, sometimes annoyed. There are also moments when I was shocked by the reactions of the people around me and for a moment I had that thought: “You are not who I thought you were”, without even taking a second to realize that being disappointed is the most useless emotion I could have either about me or about someone else.
So take a step back, give it a second look. Are you judging people by their momentary “slips of halo”? Are you judging yourself too much? Is it just a short-lived event or is it something that has become a habit? If it’s a habit, see what you can do about changing it, if it’s a halo slip, learn from it, forgive yourself and move on.
Stop trying to be perfect and hold on to all that nonsense, when you’re designed to be astonishing.