Burning Bridges

BayBridgeWe’re always told to never burn bridges, to never look back in anger, to always keep the lines of communications open, to never slam doors. But what if we are taught wrong? What if it’s a belief that maybe shouldn’t be so “believed”? Bear with me for a second before you start off thinking…hmm, I don’t know about that.

What if the way to keep the connection open is to actually burn the bridges so we can rebuild anew? A new Bay Bridge was just built in San Francisco recently. They’ve tried fixing the old one for years and years, they kept closing lanes for construction, opening them back and then closing them again. Until they finally got it: they didn’t need to fix the old bridge, they needed to “burn it” and build a new line of communication, a brand new bridge, built on new agreements that better fits the current needs. 

And what if the same applies for the bridges we build with people? What if it gets to a point where we just keep fixing and fixing, but nothing works? What then? Do we just keep fixing until the bridge crumbles under the weight of all the construction and destroys everything around? Or do we burn the bridge and minimize the destruction, let the dust settle and build a new and more durable connection?

2 responses to “Burning Bridges

  1. Reblogged this on Marcar Visions and commented:
    My opinion is to burn bridges and rebuild anew if the foundation is not stable. Fear of losing a “great” connection is the main theme of the “Burning Bridges” cliche phrase, but there is no right or wrong answer. Living in scarcity has us depend on certain sources that might not be the best for our own initiatives. Being trusting and courageous has had me connect with people that have similar ways of being as I do and I have been able to let go of the “valuable contacts” that did not serve my purpose, but it was my choice. What choice should you make?


    • I love your perspective, Dennis. In my opinion we don’t burn bridges just with the purpose of building new ones, but we burn bridges when they do more harm than good. Once the bridge has been burned, then we get the opportunity to either build a new one based on new agreements or let go and move on. And yes, in the end, it all comes down to choice and knowing that we have that choice.


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