Going back to one of my first loves, Grey’s Anatomy, I found a quote the other day from Meredith Grey, the character with whom I’ve connected so many times in the past and I have seen myself in the story. In one of her beautiful and soulful narrations, she says:
“At some point, you have to make a decision. Boundaries don’t keep other people out; they fence you in. Life is messy. That’s how we’re made. So you can waste your life drawing lines… or you can live your life crossing them.
But there are some lines… that are way too dangerous to cross. Here’s what I know: If you’re willing to take the chance, the view from the other side… is spectacular.”
It got me thinking about the many times we draw likes in the sand and get stuck in our ways. I’m not talking here about the healthy boundaries, the ones we need to set out of self-respect, but about those that turn into walls that not only keep people out, but also push them away. Sometimes we want life to fall perfectly into this pattern, this master plan we set up for ourselves and more often than not, it doesn’t, or at least not exactly the way we thought it would.
Take a look at your life right now, have you drawn lines that are just keeping people out and preventing you from living out your life. If so, let the waves wash them off, keep the healthy boundaries about your self-respect and self-worth and start living your life at its full potential.