“We are all wounded. But wounds are necessary for his healing light to enter into our beings. Without wounds and failure and frustrations and defeats, there will be no opening for his brilliance to tickle in and invade our lives. Failures in life are courses with very high tuition fees, so I don’t cut classes and miss my lessons: on humility, on patience, on hope, on asking others for help, on listening to God, on trying again and again and again.” ― Bo Sanchez, You Have The Power to Create Love: Take Another Step on the Simple Path to Happiness
I was talking to a friend this morning about emotional wounds vs. physical wounds and how we treat them differently and many times don’t even allow the healing to happen.
Many times we disregard emotional pain as if we should just “get over it.” Let’s think about physical wounds for a second. We always take the same steps towards healing. We clean the wound, we dress it to protect it from anything that might hurt it, we use different solutions and balms to accelerate the healing, and we do physical therapy when needed. However with emotional wounds, we keep coming back and poking them, tearing the scabs just as they start to heal, we don’t protect them from harm’s way as we would with a wounded limb. I remember a few years back two of my friends got knee surgeries. Once the surgery was done, the healing could begin. They had crutches for about a week so as to protect the knee from too much pressure, they went to physical therapy a few times a week and it took about a year if not more until they treated that knee as if it was completely healed. But in the meantime, they protected it and allowed for the healing to take place.
As we let go of old wounds and step into the New Year, think about what you need to do to heal those emotional wounds:
- Clean the space. Just as and unclean physical wound will get infected, the same thing is true for emotional wounds.
- Protect the wound. Keep it away from anything else that could harm it again or make the damage even worse, just like you would with a finger you cut while cooking.
- Be consistent in your healing process. On a physical wound you need to change the dressing or do physical therapy or apply some type of ointments on it. Do the same thing for your emotional wound. Whatever is your “ointment for the soul”, your panacea, just use it as often as you need.
- Remove the infection. Sometimes no matter how hard we try and how much we fight, the infection will still seep in. Whether your infection is represented by things, people, situations, try as best as you can to remove the infection.
- Give it time. Sometimes or most of the times, we want things to be healed with a snap of our fingers. But if the wound is deep, it might take a long time. Just as it took my friends almost a year to be completely healed after knee surgery, it might take time and you might not always see the progress, but day by day, if you are consistent the improvement will be there so that a year from now you can look back at the fully healed scars and smile knowing you have healed yourself.
Healing wounds is not easy and sometimes it involves more pain than it did to create them, but looking back at a healed scar will always be a great reminder of how far you’ve come and how far you can go.